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Send it to us # Community All Community Messages Survivor Stories Curated Sort by - Curated - Newest Format Format - Narrative - Artwork Find by Tag I was... Home at Someone Else’s Home in a Religious Setting The person who harmed me was a... Stranger Acquaintance Family Member Authority Figure Minor I identify as... Hispanic / Latino / Spanish White My sexual orientation is... LGBTQ+ Straight / Heterosexual I identify as... a Man a Woman I was... a Child a Teenager a Young Adult When this occurred I also experienced... Physical harm Emotional abuse Financial abuse Stalking Verbal abuse ### Welcome to the Trey’s Law Community This platform is designed for you to safely share your stories of surviving sexual assault and silencing. Every voice matters. Set your truth free! With the recent passage of Trey’s Law in Texas, survivors of sexual assault are no longer bound by NDAs, unless a party to the case obtains a specific court order. ##### What feels like the right place to start today? 🌤️ ✍️ 🙋 🤲 I'm ready to explore the community ##### Story From a survivor [ #### Name, Co-Founder of Organization I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Like many survivors, I did not fully understand or process what had been done to me until adulthood. Trauma does not operate on a clean or predictable timeline. It delays recognition, fragments memory, and often prevents disclosure until years—sometimes decades—later. When I finally came forward and spoke publicly about the abuse I experienced as a child, I believed I was exercising a basic right: to tell the truth about what happened to me. Instead, I was met with coercion. After I disclosed the abuse, my abuser and his attorney issued legal threats and demands aimed at forcing me to retract my statements and remain silent. I was pressured to take down my survivor narrative and was threatened with financial and legal consequences simply for speaking about what was done to me as a child. At the same time, I have been unable to find legal representation of my own. Despite confirming documentation, despite the seriousness of the harm, and despite acting in good faith, I have been told repeatedly that my case is “too old,” “too difficult,” or financially unviable under existing laws. The result is a brutal imbalance of power: the person who abused me had legal counsel ready to threaten me, while I—his victim—could not find a lawyer willing or able to help me pursue justice. This is what survivors face when the law closes its doors. I did not choose to be abused. I did not choose how my mind protected me as a child. And I should not be punished, intimidated, or silenced for seeking accountability as an adult. No survivor should be subjected to legal threats from their abuser for telling the truth. No survivor should be forced to face an abuser’s attorney alone, without representation, simply because trauma delayed their ability to come forward. And no one should be denied access to the courts while those who harmed them are able to use the legal system as a weapon. That is why Trey’s Law matters. Trey’s Law is not about revenge. It is about access—access to justice, access to accountability, and access to the courts for survivors whose abuse could not realistically be confronted within rigid, outdated timelines. If abuse happens again to someone else—and we know it will—they should not have to endure what I have endured just to be heard. They should not be threatened for speaking. They should not be shut out of the legal system before they ever have a chance to stand in it. Trey’s Law recognizes the reality of trauma and corrects a system that currently protects abusers better than it protects the people they harmed. I am sharing my story not only for myself, but for every survivor who was told it was “too late,” who was pressured into silence, or who discovered that the hardest part was not surviving the abuse—but surviving the system afterward. I will not stop until the law honors who it should: the victims. ](/en/story/name-co-founder-of-organization1809) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Hope From a survivor [Story #1703](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/you-are-here-for-times-of-survival-suffering-and-sorrow-1703) [ We often underestimate small lights. We think hope has to look like joy or certainty. But sometimes it looks like survival, like getting out of bed when you’d rather stay down. Sometimes it’s the text from a friend, a sunrise after a sleepless night, or a laugh in the middle of grief. The truth is, trauma does not have to consume you. You may feel surrounded by darkness, but the light, that small spark, inside you is not so easily extinguished. That spark can grow into a steady flame if you feed it with truth, connection, and courage. So today, look for your small light. Don’t wait for everything to be fixed before you allow hope in. Even in chaos, you can find it. Even in despair, it can flicker. And sometimes, that flicker is all you need to keep going. ](/en/message/we-often-underestimate-small-lights-we-think-hope-has-to-look-like-joy-or-certainty-but-sometimes-it-looks-like-survival-like-getting-out-of-bed-when-youd-rather-stay-down-sometimes-its-the-text-from-1543) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor 🇺🇸 [ #### Horrible NDA I just recently read an NDA that Organization put my brother under. It is horrible and so long, thorough, specific…very much intended to be intimidating and silencing! Thanks to Trey’s Law, I now know what my brother signed and it’s atrocious that Organization the “ministry” specifically demanded and wanted the NDA (not other involved parties/defendants). It’s also obscene that his lawyer let him sign this. The system is broken. Victims don’t deserve this after everything else they’ve been through! ](/en/story/horrible-nda-1750) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report #### “You are the author of your own story. Your story is yours and yours alone despite your experiences.” ##### Community Message [ To all survivors here: we see you, we hear you, we believe you. Together we are making a difference ❤️ ](/en/message/to-all-survivors-here-we-see-you-we-hear-you-we-believe-you-together-we-are-making-a-difference-1536) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor 🇺🇸 [ #### Survivor My name is Survivor and I live in Huntsville, TX. In 2004, at the age of 15 I was introduced to a man who was a pedophile. This was just after my parents divorced and after growing up with a severely abusive father, I was desperate from male leadership in my life. Needless to say, I was an easy victim. This man began grooming me and would eventually begin molesting me. This happened once or twice a month for the rest of my high school. Little did I know, this man was working alongside a college ministry called Chi Alpha and the Assemblies of God for at least 2 decades and had already molested other boys. For which he served a mere 90 days in Alaska jail. Pastors in our ministry tried to convince students, many of whom who were victims, to write letters of lienance on behalf of the abuser. You would think after high school and turning 18 I would have moved on and left him. After all, why would anyone continue to let themselves get abused? Unfortunately, that’s not how grooming or the mind of a victim works. So, I’m sad to say, the abuse continued. When I was abused in 2005, the statute of limitations in Texas at that time were until the age of 23. At the age of 23, I was still being molested by this man. For a significant amount of time the leadership in the Assemblies of God, which was the denomination I had been apart of my whole life, knew that this man was a registered sex offender and did not take needed steps to rid our ministries of him. I was one of the first victims to publicly come forward in 2023. For nearly 20 years I told no one, not even my wife. Myself and 5 friends, some even pastors in the Assemblies of God, started making calls to friends figuring other men had been abused heard dozens of stories of abuse because we were trying to help over 40 victims get help, seek justice, and heal. We all watched in horror as NDAs were used to insulate organizational leadership to cover themselves, using the NDAs as a fog of ignorance and hiding behind it. Because of this, Justice has not been served. Since then the Assemblies of God has tried to dismiss valid civil claims of negligence, has sidelined victims in the investigation process, and has sneakily tried to get victims to sign NDA’s. I’ll also add that I am a high school teacher here in Texas, and every year I hear stories from students who have been sexually harassed or abused in all kinds of scenarios. The happy side of my story is the abuser is currently in jail and awaiting trial. My wife and I have a rule in our house with our kids - no secrets. Last night I talked to my 8 year old daughter (in kid language) how NDA’s are used. And she said “but if you keep it secret doesn’t that bad person keep hurting children?” I had the privilege of working with Elizabeth and everyone involved with Trey’s Law. It helped my healing so much to be able to meet and talk with other survivors. To hear their struggles and to know I wasn’t crazy or alone. Through that legislative process I found my voice and gained confidence in sharing my story. Thank you Elizabeth for helping me tag along! ](/en/story/survivor-1704) 2 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Community Message 🇺🇸 [ Thank you Elizabeth Carlock Phillips and the Carlock family for working to bring Trey’s Law forward. Out of great difficulty and sorrow for one family, many other families will be saved in the future. This is truly a priceless legacy for Trey Carlock’s life. ](/en/message/thank-you-name-and-the-family-for-working-to-bring-name-s-law-forward-out-of-great-difficulty-and-sorrow-for-one-family-many-other-families-will-be-saved-in-the-future-thi-1535) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor [ #### YOU ARE HERE: For times of survival, suffering and sorrow My name is Survivor and when I was around age 3, my father started raping me. My mother helped hold me down. He was raping her, and she offered me up in her place. This continued until age 23, maybe 24, shortly before my wedding. By the time I was 6, he was raping other members of my family too. He’d come into my room at night and would throw my nightgown up into the headboard and then I’d have to wait my turn in fear and naked shame while others were raped. We had a large waterbed and I still remember the bed rolling up and down, up, and down, up, and down like on a boat. Once done, he wiped me down roughly with a red shop rag he used in cleaning the garage. It allowed him to keep the rag around to smell it and hold it close with no one questioning why it was so dirty with red stains. Most of the time, my dad was friendly and polite. But once he turned into the monster no one did anything to stop him. He never did these things when he was nice. Only when he was the monster. But he used the nice times to make it easier to attack. He would lull you into a false sense of safety and peace which really made you question your intuition and gut instincts that this was a bad man. This made it easier for him to sexually assault other children and adults. As I got older, my parents controlled the narrative of our lives, every aspect was carefully controlled. Like my mom knowing how to force miscarriages. The first abortion forced on me was when I was 15. I don’t know how I managed to make it to adulthood. I continue to remember more and more of the abuse by other family and church members. And other things my dad did within the church where he was pastor and then later deacon. But I still can’t talk about those memories. I think my dad felt like anything he did was inevitable, therefore, never his fault because he couldn’t control himself and when it happened God would forgive him, so it was all right. I know this because I overheard him grooming another family member to do the same things when he was 11 years old. Males in our family were groomed to be abusers too. I was groomed too. To always be the abused. Forced to keep silent, I learned quickly what happens to people who stand up to my dad. They die or get assaulted. As you can imagine, I had terrible anxiety growing up about being sexually assaulted and worked hard to fade into the background. I thought that might help. I thought it mattered what I wore, color of my hair, how much I weighed. It’s taken years and it will probably continue to take years to unlearn the lies I was taught. The worry made me constantly ill with one thing after another-- I got cancer when I was 32 and before that incapacitating vertigo and motion sickness. My parents met while working down in Texas for an independent fundamental Baptist preacher. Lester Roloff—an Independent Fundamental Baptist preacher who opened homes across the country for “troubled” children, teens, and adults. He liked to say he was saving dope fiends, whores, and hippies. I believe many of the children in the homes had already experienced abuse growing up and Lester Roloff homes should have been a safe place to heal. Instead, the kids met caretakers like my parents. My mom was in a charge of the 16 and older home and my dad flew around the country raising money and preaching the party line: men were akin to gods and women were lower than dirt—their only worth was in being a virgin and then baby factories once married. Very masochistic and minimizing of abuse of any kind, my parents ate up the evil rhetoric being preached from the pulpit My parents eventually took their brand of abuse from Lester Roloff’s out into the churches and communities where we lived-from Texas to Washington and eventually into Alaska. He disappeared in a plane over the waters near Anchorage in 2006. The events surrounding his disappearance were always very suspect but intense pressure from my family kept me quiet. Every day for almost three years straight, a family member called and reminded me talking about “our family issues” was causing generational sin to 4 generations. The pressure to keep quiet and do what my family told me to do was so significant I would have rather died than disappoint them. It wasn’t until I set out to heal from all the trauma, that I found out my dad faked his death. I had always been told since he was gone, there was nothing to be done for what I experienced growing up. But let me tell you, knowing he’s still out there perpetrating on other children and men and women really compelled me to come forward. I finally felt free to start talking. Getting past the pressure to stay silent was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Harder, even, than fighting cancer. I have spent many years in intensive CBT, EMDR and Polyvagal therapy learning how to process my wounds in a healthy way. I had pushed for criminal and civil suits against my perpetrators but the Texas statute of limitations don’t allow for justice to be done. So now, I spend my time now speaking on panels, podcasts, and community platforms about the intersections of trauma, faith, and advocacy. One of the biggest honors of my life has been sharing my story and advocating for Trey’s Law on the Texas Senate floor in Spring 2025. Forcing a sexual assault victim to keep quiet is what allowed people like my parents to continue their mistreatment for so many years. I will do what I can to make sure justice isn’t minimized by NDAs and Statute of Limitations. My efforts connect me with survivors, true crime audiences, mental health communities, and faith groups seeking to understand and confront abuse. I invest my time in mentoring survivors, creating resources for healing, and building digital tools to expand access to supportive materials. Because living a life whole and healthy is what I really want for me, all the victims and their families. We make our own opportunities to heal. ](/en/story/you-are-here-for-times-of-survival-suffering-and-sorrow-1703) Community note This story includes graphic descriptions of sexual harm. Please take care of yourself as you read. 6 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Community Message [ No Sexual Abuse Survivor should ever be silenced and no institution hiding perpetrators or any sexual predators should ever be protected! ](/en/message/no-sexual-abuse-survivor-should-ever-be-silenced-and-no-institution-hiding-perpetrators-or-any-sexual-predators-should-ever-be-protected-1547) 1 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report #### “Healing is different for everyone, but for me it is listening to myself...I make sure to take some time out of each week to put me first and practice self-care.” ##### Story From a survivor 🇨🇦 [ #### #1709 I am a child sexual abuse survivor living in Canada with an NDA for childhood sexual abuse for the past 28 years. When I sought to lift my NDA in 2018 after my abuser had died, the British Columbia court denied me and refused to lift the NDA. So, for the past seven years, I have been advocating both provincial and federal politicians in Canada to ban the misuse of NDAs for childhood sexual abuse survivors. With the passage of Trey's Law in both Texas and Missouri (and more states soon, I hope!), this will place pressure on the Canadian government and the provinces to pass similar legislation. I'm very heartened (and healed too!) by all of the survivors sharing their stories in the Missouri and Texas legislatures. All of this testimony is very important as evidence to prove the long-term extensive damage of an NDA on a childhood abuse victim for ensuing court cases. (This kind of evidence of long-term damage was missing in my BC court case; as a result, my application to lift the NDA was denied). We all need to keep speaking out to change the future for children. We might not be able to change the past, but we can certainly change the present and make the world safer for others. After a great deal of suffering for many years, I can see now that the suffering has had a meaning. As a result, I have become a stronger person. I am not thankful for the abuse, but it seems to me that a greater force in the universe is helping all victims to completely change the world right now. It is an unprecedented moment in human history and we all need to keep moving this incredible change forward. Thank you to Trey's Law and to all the survivors who have spoken in support of Trey's Law. ](/en/story/fcc4db8d-279c-47bb-8f91-4bcdf80bfe9f) 1 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Community Message [ i’m finally been able to publicly speak out about my abuse and am now unpacking abuse from my second abuser you are all brave you are all worthy of love and respect ](/en/message/im-finally-been-able-to-publicly-speak-out-about-my-abuse-and-am-now-unpacking-abuse-from-my-second-abuser-you-are-all-brave-you-are-all-worthy-of-love-and-respect-1716) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor [NameHaving YOUR voice is the most important thing that you can have as an abuse victim. After going through abuse for multiple years at Location, I felt like everything was stripped away from me. My dignity, self respect, confidence, happiness, and strength felt like were taken by the age of 9. Summer after summer i went to this dark place that was supposed to be a positive experience. My parents thought they were dropping me off at a place to help grow my walk with the Lord. What they didnt know is that Name 2 told me that if I did the sexual acts he wanted me to do, he promised that I would become closer to God. He was a sick individual that constantly broke Location's guidelines and the law. The worst part is that Location had insight and knew these events were happening but did nothing. Leaving camp and going back home I remember feeling empty and depressed. You are not at a maturity level at this age to be able to grasp what has happened and how to process it. I went to child advocacy centers to get professional help and struggled to even talk about what happened because it did not make sense in my head and could not verbalize the events or the impact it had on me. As i moved into my teen years I became more depressed. Every night I would have a dream of Name 2 abusing me and I felt like every night I went to sleep, I was going to be abused again. The fear, anger and depression I went through weighed so heavy on me that I was close to not wanting to make it to the next day. After years of this cycle, I decided I needed change to be able to live a full life. I started to work on my physical, spiritual and mental health. The biggest part of this is having your voice. You have to be able to share your experience so that you can get the help you need and to express the pain you have been through. That is why I am thankful for Trey's Law. This removes the ability for organizations like Location to silence victims after they put them through horrendous experiences. It gives the power back to the Survivor. Treys Law will save lives. It will allow for someone to stick up for themselves. It will allow for less criminals/organizations to get away with what is the worst crime someone can commit. If anyone is reading this and needs help, I am always happy to listen to your voice! Name](/en/story/name-1711) 3 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Healing From a survivor [Story #1809](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/name-co-founder-of-organization1809) [ Healing looks like a full ride scholarship to law school, representing victims, tearing down unconstitutional laws, getting Trey’s Law passed across the country in all 50 states, including repealing the civil and criminal SOL for CSA victims. ](/en/message/healing-looks-like-a-full-ride-scholarship-to-law-school-representing-victims-tearing-down-unconstitutional-laws-getting-treys-law-passed-across-the-country-in-all-50-states-including-repealing-the-ci-1849) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor [ #### Enraged Mother Healing brings Hope and Growth. Growth brings purpose, and strength. Enraged Mother, my daughter was 14 years old and my niece was 13 years old when they were both sexually assaulted by my “sisters” husband. My “sister” and my “mother” were both aware that my niece was being sexually assaulted by her stepfather who is still married to my sister. They helped this predator cover the entire horrific incident. No one ever said anything about my daughter spending the night over. It wasn’t its several years later when he sexually assaulted my daughter in 2015 when everything and so much more came to light. In 2019 he was sentenced to 10 years but was just recently granted parole and is due to be released this year July, 2026. This is not true justice for our children. ](/en/story/enraged-mother-1861) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report #### “We believe you. Your stories matter.” ##### Community Message 🇺🇸 [ So very thankful you have set this up! What a great way to know for us to know we're not alone. That what happened matters. And our stories are important. We hear you survivor! ](/en/message/so-very-thankful-you-have-set-this-up-what-a-great-way-to-know-for-us-to-know-were-not-alone-that-what-happened-matters-and-our-stories-are-important-we-hear-you-survivor-1529) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Hope From a survivor 🇺🇸 [Story #1704](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/survivor-1704) [ You are not alone. What you have been through is incredibly evil, but it is not your fault. This wound and scar that you carry, while it feels impossible, can heal. I don’t think it will ever fully go away, at least mine hasn’t, but it can heal. You are under obligation to meet anyone’s expectation of healing through this. Grief has no timeline. ](/en/message/you-are-not-alone-what-you-have-been-through-is-incredibly-evil-but-it-is-not-your-fault-this-wound-and-scar-that-you-carry-while-it-feels-impossible-can-heal-i-dont-think-it-will-ever-fully-go-away-a-1822) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Hope From a survivor [Story #1861](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/enraged-mother-1861) [ Keep hope and faith alive that we will win the battle against these pedophiles ](/en/message/keep-hope-and-faith-alive-that-we-will-win-the-battle-against-these-pedophiles-1878) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Hope From a survivor [Story #1809](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/name-co-founder-of-organization1809) [ No matter what the system tells you: it was done TO YOU, what they did is not YOUR FAULT. Now pick yourself up and do all YOU CAN DO to make sure it doesn’t happen to another kid, and when it does happen to another kid, they don’t have to fight the way we have had to in order for justice to be served in this life. ](/en/message/no-matter-what-the-system-tells-you-it-was-done-to-you-what-they-did-is-not-your-fault-now-pick-yourself-up-and-do-all-you-can-do-to-make-sure-it-doesnt-happen-to-another-kid-and-when-it-does-happen-t-1848) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Healing From a survivor [Story #1703](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/you-are-here-for-times-of-survival-suffering-and-sorrow-1703) [ For me, my efforts to heal focus on putting the past in its place and ground myself in the present. For survivors of trauma-especially sexual assault memories come uninvited. It’s hard to block them out sometimes. A smell, a song, a place can pull me back into a moment I thought I had left behind or blocked away. Past and present blur and it can feel like the attack is actually happening again. I suddenly live in the past. I believe that’s because your brain is still trying to find a way to heal from hurt of what happened. It’s an unacknowledged injury. Your body has kept score and now wants attention. With the help of my trusted support team-certain family, friends, therapist and doctor-I have learned how to manage those flashbacks. My people have taught me that memories are not an enemy, not always a friend. Just part of me. My past is both an anchor and burden. Memories keep you connected to what you’ve lost, learned and survived. I've learned to honor my brain, my body and the stories it holds. I can ground myself in the present because I've learned that I survived the living of the trauma, so I can survive the remembering. ](/en/message/for-me-my-efforts-to-heal-focus-on-putting-the-past-in-its-place-and-ground-myself-in-the-present-for-survivors-of-trauma-especially-sexual-assault-memories-come-uninvited-its-hard-to-block-them-out-s-1544) 1 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report #### Healing is not linear. It is different for everyone. It is important that we stay patient with ourselves when setbacks occur in our process. Forgive yourself for everything that may go wrong along the way. ##### Community Message 🇺🇸 [ Congratulations Elizabeth on all your Dedication and Commitment to passing Trey’s Law!! Officially in Effect in Texas today!! 🙌🎉💯 You are Honoring Trey with Legacy and Love! ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 ](/en/message/congratulations-name-on-all-your-dedication-and-commitment-to-passing-name-s-law-officially-in-effect-in-texas-today-you-are-honoring-name-with-legacy-and-love-1531) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Healing From a survivor [Story #1861](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/enraged-mother-1861) [ Healing brings hope growth. Growth means purpose and strength. ](/en/message/healing-brings-hope-growth-growth-means-purpose-and-strength-1879) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Community Message [ I just discovered this site. I'm passing it on. Thanks everyone for staying strong ](/en/message/i-just-discovered-this-site-im-passing-it-on-thanks-everyone-for-staying-strong-1867) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ### Welcome to the Trey’s Law Community This platform is designed for you to safely share your stories of surviving sexual assault and silencing. Every voice matters. Set your truth free! With the recent passage of Trey’s Law in Texas, survivors of sexual assault are no longer bound by NDAs, unless a party to the case obtains a specific court order. ##### What feels like the right place to start today? 🌤️ ✍️ 🙋 🤲 I'm ready to explore the community ##### Story From a survivor 🇺🇸 [ #### Horrible NDA I just recently read an NDA that Organization put my brother under. It is horrible and so long, thorough, specific…very much intended to be intimidating and silencing! Thanks to Trey’s Law, I now know what my brother signed and it’s atrocious that Organization the “ministry” specifically demanded and wanted the NDA (not other involved parties/defendants). It’s also obscene that his lawyer let him sign this. The system is broken. Victims don’t deserve this after everything else they’ve been through! ](/en/story/horrible-nda-1750) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor 🇺🇸 [ #### Survivor My name is Survivor and I live in Huntsville, TX. In 2004, at the age of 15 I was introduced to a man who was a pedophile. This was just after my parents divorced and after growing up with a severely abusive father, I was desperate from male leadership in my life. Needless to say, I was an easy victim. This man began grooming me and would eventually begin molesting me. This happened once or twice a month for the rest of my high school. Little did I know, this man was working alongside a college ministry called Chi Alpha and the Assemblies of God for at least 2 decades and had already molested other boys. For which he served a mere 90 days in Alaska jail. Pastors in our ministry tried to convince students, many of whom who were victims, to write letters of lienance on behalf of the abuser. You would think after high school and turning 18 I would have moved on and left him. After all, why would anyone continue to let themselves get abused? Unfortunately, that’s not how grooming or the mind of a victim works. So, I’m sad to say, the abuse continued. When I was abused in 2005, the statute of limitations in Texas at that time were until the age of 23. At the age of 23, I was still being molested by this man. For a significant amount of time the leadership in the Assemblies of God, which was the denomination I had been apart of my whole life, knew that this man was a registered sex offender and did not take needed steps to rid our ministries of him. I was one of the first victims to publicly come forward in 2023. For nearly 20 years I told no one, not even my wife. Myself and 5 friends, some even pastors in the Assemblies of God, started making calls to friends figuring other men had been abused heard dozens of stories of abuse because we were trying to help over 40 victims get help, seek justice, and heal. We all watched in horror as NDAs were used to insulate organizational leadership to cover themselves, using the NDAs as a fog of ignorance and hiding behind it. Because of this, Justice has not been served. Since then the Assemblies of God has tried to dismiss valid civil claims of negligence, has sidelined victims in the investigation process, and has sneakily tried to get victims to sign NDA’s. I’ll also add that I am a high school teacher here in Texas, and every year I hear stories from students who have been sexually harassed or abused in all kinds of scenarios. The happy side of my story is the abuser is currently in jail and awaiting trial. My wife and I have a rule in our house with our kids - no secrets. Last night I talked to my 8 year old daughter (in kid language) how NDA’s are used. And she said “but if you keep it secret doesn’t that bad person keep hurting children?” I had the privilege of working with Elizabeth and everyone involved with Trey’s Law. It helped my healing so much to be able to meet and talk with other survivors. To hear their struggles and to know I wasn’t crazy or alone. Through that legislative process I found my voice and gained confidence in sharing my story. Thank you Elizabeth for helping me tag along! ](/en/story/survivor-1704) 2 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Community Message [ No Sexual Abuse Survivor should ever be silenced and no institution hiding perpetrators or any sexual predators should ever be protected! ](/en/message/no-sexual-abuse-survivor-should-ever-be-silenced-and-no-institution-hiding-perpetrators-or-any-sexual-predators-should-ever-be-protected-1547) 1 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Community Message [ i’m finally been able to publicly speak out about my abuse and am now unpacking abuse from my second abuser you are all brave you are all worthy of love and respect ](/en/message/im-finally-been-able-to-publicly-speak-out-about-my-abuse-and-am-now-unpacking-abuse-from-my-second-abuser-you-are-all-brave-you-are-all-worthy-of-love-and-respect-1716) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor [ #### Enraged Mother Healing brings Hope and Growth. Growth brings purpose, and strength. Enraged Mother, my daughter was 14 years old and my niece was 13 years old when they were both sexually assaulted by my “sisters” husband. My “sister” and my “mother” were both aware that my niece was being sexually assaulted by her stepfather who is still married to my sister. They helped this predator cover the entire horrific incident. No one ever said anything about my daughter spending the night over. It wasn’t its several years later when he sexually assaulted my daughter in 2015 when everything and so much more came to light. In 2019 he was sentenced to 10 years but was just recently granted parole and is due to be released this year July, 2026. This is not true justice for our children. ](/en/story/enraged-mother-1861) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Hope From a survivor 🇺🇸 [Story #1704](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/survivor-1704) [ You are not alone. What you have been through is incredibly evil, but it is not your fault. This wound and scar that you carry, while it feels impossible, can heal. I don’t think it will ever fully go away, at least mine hasn’t, but it can heal. You are under obligation to meet anyone’s expectation of healing through this. Grief has no timeline. ](/en/message/you-are-not-alone-what-you-have-been-through-is-incredibly-evil-but-it-is-not-your-fault-this-wound-and-scar-that-you-carry-while-it-feels-impossible-can-heal-i-dont-think-it-will-ever-fully-go-away-a-1822) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Healing From a survivor [Story #1703](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/you-are-here-for-times-of-survival-suffering-and-sorrow-1703) [ For me, my efforts to heal focus on putting the past in its place and ground myself in the present. For survivors of trauma-especially sexual assault memories come uninvited. It’s hard to block them out sometimes. A smell, a song, a place can pull me back into a moment I thought I had left behind or blocked away. Past and present blur and it can feel like the attack is actually happening again. I suddenly live in the past. I believe that’s because your brain is still trying to find a way to heal from hurt of what happened. It’s an unacknowledged injury. Your body has kept score and now wants attention. With the help of my trusted support team-certain family, friends, therapist and doctor-I have learned how to manage those flashbacks. My people have taught me that memories are not an enemy, not always a friend. Just part of me. My past is both an anchor and burden. Memories keep you connected to what you’ve lost, learned and survived. I've learned to honor my brain, my body and the stories it holds. I can ground myself in the present because I've learned that I survived the living of the trauma, so I can survive the remembering. ](/en/message/for-me-my-efforts-to-heal-focus-on-putting-the-past-in-its-place-and-ground-myself-in-the-present-for-survivors-of-trauma-especially-sexual-assault-memories-come-uninvited-its-hard-to-block-them-out-s-1544) 1 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Healing From a survivor [Story #1861](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/enraged-mother-1861) [ Healing brings hope growth. Growth means purpose and strength. ](/en/message/healing-brings-hope-growth-growth-means-purpose-and-strength-1879) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor [ #### Name, Co-Founder of Organization I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Like many survivors, I did not fully understand or process what had been done to me until adulthood. Trauma does not operate on a clean or predictable timeline. It delays recognition, fragments memory, and often prevents disclosure until years—sometimes decades—later. When I finally came forward and spoke publicly about the abuse I experienced as a child, I believed I was exercising a basic right: to tell the truth about what happened to me. Instead, I was met with coercion. After I disclosed the abuse, my abuser and his attorney issued legal threats and demands aimed at forcing me to retract my statements and remain silent. I was pressured to take down my survivor narrative and was threatened with financial and legal consequences simply for speaking about what was done to me as a child. At the same time, I have been unable to find legal representation of my own. Despite confirming documentation, despite the seriousness of the harm, and despite acting in good faith, I have been told repeatedly that my case is “too old,” “too difficult,” or financially unviable under existing laws. The result is a brutal imbalance of power: the person who abused me had legal counsel ready to threaten me, while I—his victim—could not find a lawyer willing or able to help me pursue justice. This is what survivors face when the law closes its doors. I did not choose to be abused. I did not choose how my mind protected me as a child. And I should not be punished, intimidated, or silenced for seeking accountability as an adult. No survivor should be subjected to legal threats from their abuser for telling the truth. No survivor should be forced to face an abuser’s attorney alone, without representation, simply because trauma delayed their ability to come forward. And no one should be denied access to the courts while those who harmed them are able to use the legal system as a weapon. That is why Trey’s Law matters. Trey’s Law is not about revenge. It is about access—access to justice, access to accountability, and access to the courts for survivors whose abuse could not realistically be confronted within rigid, outdated timelines. If abuse happens again to someone else—and we know it will—they should not have to endure what I have endured just to be heard. They should not be threatened for speaking. They should not be shut out of the legal system before they ever have a chance to stand in it. Trey’s Law recognizes the reality of trauma and corrects a system that currently protects abusers better than it protects the people they harmed. I am sharing my story not only for myself, but for every survivor who was told it was “too late,” who was pressured into silence, or who discovered that the hardest part was not surviving the abuse—but surviving the system afterward. I will not stop until the law honors who it should: the victims. ](/en/story/name-co-founder-of-organization1809) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report #### “You are the author of your own story. Your story is yours and yours alone despite your experiences.” ##### Community Message 🇺🇸 [ Thank you Elizabeth Carlock Phillips and the Carlock family for working to bring Trey’s Law forward. Out of great difficulty and sorrow for one family, many other families will be saved in the future. This is truly a priceless legacy for Trey Carlock’s life. ](/en/message/thank-you-name-and-the-family-for-working-to-bring-name-s-law-forward-out-of-great-difficulty-and-sorrow-for-one-family-many-other-families-will-be-saved-in-the-future-thi-1535) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report #### “Healing is different for everyone, but for me it is listening to myself...I make sure to take some time out of each week to put me first and practice self-care.” ##### Story From a survivor [NameHaving YOUR voice is the most important thing that you can have as an abuse victim. After going through abuse for multiple years at Location, I felt like everything was stripped away from me. My dignity, self respect, confidence, happiness, and strength felt like were taken by the age of 9. Summer after summer i went to this dark place that was supposed to be a positive experience. My parents thought they were dropping me off at a place to help grow my walk with the Lord. What they didnt know is that Name 2 told me that if I did the sexual acts he wanted me to do, he promised that I would become closer to God. He was a sick individual that constantly broke Location's guidelines and the law. The worst part is that Location had insight and knew these events were happening but did nothing. Leaving camp and going back home I remember feeling empty and depressed. You are not at a maturity level at this age to be able to grasp what has happened and how to process it. I went to child advocacy centers to get professional help and struggled to even talk about what happened because it did not make sense in my head and could not verbalize the events or the impact it had on me. As i moved into my teen years I became more depressed. Every night I would have a dream of Name 2 abusing me and I felt like every night I went to sleep, I was going to be abused again. The fear, anger and depression I went through weighed so heavy on me that I was close to not wanting to make it to the next day. After years of this cycle, I decided I needed change to be able to live a full life. I started to work on my physical, spiritual and mental health. The biggest part of this is having your voice. You have to be able to share your experience so that you can get the help you need and to express the pain you have been through. That is why I am thankful for Trey's Law. This removes the ability for organizations like Location to silence victims after they put them through horrendous experiences. It gives the power back to the Survivor. Treys Law will save lives. It will allow for someone to stick up for themselves. It will allow for less criminals/organizations to get away with what is the worst crime someone can commit. If anyone is reading this and needs help, I am always happy to listen to your voice! Name](/en/story/name-1711) 3 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report #### “We believe you. Your stories matter.” ##### Message of Hope From a survivor [Story #1861](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/enraged-mother-1861) [ Keep hope and faith alive that we will win the battle against these pedophiles ](/en/message/keep-hope-and-faith-alive-that-we-will-win-the-battle-against-these-pedophiles-1878) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report #### Healing is not linear. It is different for everyone. It is important that we stay patient with ourselves when setbacks occur in our process. Forgive yourself for everything that may go wrong along the way. ##### Community Message [ I just discovered this site. I'm passing it on. Thanks everyone for staying strong ](/en/message/i-just-discovered-this-site-im-passing-it-on-thanks-everyone-for-staying-strong-1867) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Hope From a survivor [Story #1703](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/you-are-here-for-times-of-survival-suffering-and-sorrow-1703) [ We often underestimate small lights. We think hope has to look like joy or certainty. But sometimes it looks like survival, like getting out of bed when you’d rather stay down. Sometimes it’s the text from a friend, a sunrise after a sleepless night, or a laugh in the middle of grief. The truth is, trauma does not have to consume you. You may feel surrounded by darkness, but the light, that small spark, inside you is not so easily extinguished. That spark can grow into a steady flame if you feed it with truth, connection, and courage. So today, look for your small light. Don’t wait for everything to be fixed before you allow hope in. Even in chaos, you can find it. Even in despair, it can flicker. And sometimes, that flicker is all you need to keep going. ](/en/message/we-often-underestimate-small-lights-we-think-hope-has-to-look-like-joy-or-certainty-but-sometimes-it-looks-like-survival-like-getting-out-of-bed-when-youd-rather-stay-down-sometimes-its-the-text-from-1543) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Community Message [ To all survivors here: we see you, we hear you, we believe you. Together we are making a difference ❤️ ](/en/message/to-all-survivors-here-we-see-you-we-hear-you-we-believe-you-together-we-are-making-a-difference-1536) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor [ #### YOU ARE HERE: For times of survival, suffering and sorrow My name is Survivor and when I was around age 3, my father started raping me. My mother helped hold me down. He was raping her, and she offered me up in her place. This continued until age 23, maybe 24, shortly before my wedding. By the time I was 6, he was raping other members of my family too. He’d come into my room at night and would throw my nightgown up into the headboard and then I’d have to wait my turn in fear and naked shame while others were raped. We had a large waterbed and I still remember the bed rolling up and down, up, and down, up, and down like on a boat. Once done, he wiped me down roughly with a red shop rag he used in cleaning the garage. It allowed him to keep the rag around to smell it and hold it close with no one questioning why it was so dirty with red stains. Most of the time, my dad was friendly and polite. But once he turned into the monster no one did anything to stop him. He never did these things when he was nice. Only when he was the monster. But he used the nice times to make it easier to attack. He would lull you into a false sense of safety and peace which really made you question your intuition and gut instincts that this was a bad man. This made it easier for him to sexually assault other children and adults. As I got older, my parents controlled the narrative of our lives, every aspect was carefully controlled. Like my mom knowing how to force miscarriages. The first abortion forced on me was when I was 15. I don’t know how I managed to make it to adulthood. I continue to remember more and more of the abuse by other family and church members. And other things my dad did within the church where he was pastor and then later deacon. But I still can’t talk about those memories. I think my dad felt like anything he did was inevitable, therefore, never his fault because he couldn’t control himself and when it happened God would forgive him, so it was all right. I know this because I overheard him grooming another family member to do the same things when he was 11 years old. Males in our family were groomed to be abusers too. I was groomed too. To always be the abused. Forced to keep silent, I learned quickly what happens to people who stand up to my dad. They die or get assaulted. As you can imagine, I had terrible anxiety growing up about being sexually assaulted and worked hard to fade into the background. I thought that might help. I thought it mattered what I wore, color of my hair, how much I weighed. It’s taken years and it will probably continue to take years to unlearn the lies I was taught. The worry made me constantly ill with one thing after another-- I got cancer when I was 32 and before that incapacitating vertigo and motion sickness. My parents met while working down in Texas for an independent fundamental Baptist preacher. Lester Roloff—an Independent Fundamental Baptist preacher who opened homes across the country for “troubled” children, teens, and adults. He liked to say he was saving dope fiends, whores, and hippies. I believe many of the children in the homes had already experienced abuse growing up and Lester Roloff homes should have been a safe place to heal. Instead, the kids met caretakers like my parents. My mom was in a charge of the 16 and older home and my dad flew around the country raising money and preaching the party line: men were akin to gods and women were lower than dirt—their only worth was in being a virgin and then baby factories once married. Very masochistic and minimizing of abuse of any kind, my parents ate up the evil rhetoric being preached from the pulpit My parents eventually took their brand of abuse from Lester Roloff’s out into the churches and communities where we lived-from Texas to Washington and eventually into Alaska. He disappeared in a plane over the waters near Anchorage in 2006. The events surrounding his disappearance were always very suspect but intense pressure from my family kept me quiet. Every day for almost three years straight, a family member called and reminded me talking about “our family issues” was causing generational sin to 4 generations. The pressure to keep quiet and do what my family told me to do was so significant I would have rather died than disappoint them. It wasn’t until I set out to heal from all the trauma, that I found out my dad faked his death. I had always been told since he was gone, there was nothing to be done for what I experienced growing up. But let me tell you, knowing he’s still out there perpetrating on other children and men and women really compelled me to come forward. I finally felt free to start talking. Getting past the pressure to stay silent was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Harder, even, than fighting cancer. I have spent many years in intensive CBT, EMDR and Polyvagal therapy learning how to process my wounds in a healthy way. I had pushed for criminal and civil suits against my perpetrators but the Texas statute of limitations don’t allow for justice to be done. So now, I spend my time now speaking on panels, podcasts, and community platforms about the intersections of trauma, faith, and advocacy. One of the biggest honors of my life has been sharing my story and advocating for Trey’s Law on the Texas Senate floor in Spring 2025. Forcing a sexual assault victim to keep quiet is what allowed people like my parents to continue their mistreatment for so many years. I will do what I can to make sure justice isn’t minimized by NDAs and Statute of Limitations. My efforts connect me with survivors, true crime audiences, mental health communities, and faith groups seeking to understand and confront abuse. I invest my time in mentoring survivors, creating resources for healing, and building digital tools to expand access to supportive materials. Because living a life whole and healthy is what I really want for me, all the victims and their families. We make our own opportunities to heal. ](/en/story/you-are-here-for-times-of-survival-suffering-and-sorrow-1703) Community note This story includes graphic descriptions of sexual harm. Please take care of yourself as you read. 6 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Story From a survivor 🇨🇦 [ #### #1709 I am a child sexual abuse survivor living in Canada with an NDA for childhood sexual abuse for the past 28 years. When I sought to lift my NDA in 2018 after my abuser had died, the British Columbia court denied me and refused to lift the NDA. So, for the past seven years, I have been advocating both provincial and federal politicians in Canada to ban the misuse of NDAs for childhood sexual abuse survivors. With the passage of Trey's Law in both Texas and Missouri (and more states soon, I hope!), this will place pressure on the Canadian government and the provinces to pass similar legislation. I'm very heartened (and healed too!) by all of the survivors sharing their stories in the Missouri and Texas legislatures. All of this testimony is very important as evidence to prove the long-term extensive damage of an NDA on a childhood abuse victim for ensuing court cases. (This kind of evidence of long-term damage was missing in my BC court case; as a result, my application to lift the NDA was denied). We all need to keep speaking out to change the future for children. We might not be able to change the past, but we can certainly change the present and make the world safer for others. After a great deal of suffering for many years, I can see now that the suffering has had a meaning. As a result, I have become a stronger person. I am not thankful for the abuse, but it seems to me that a greater force in the universe is helping all victims to completely change the world right now. It is an unprecedented moment in human history and we all need to keep moving this incredible change forward. Thank you to Trey's Law and to all the survivors who have spoken in support of Trey's Law. ](/en/story/fcc4db8d-279c-47bb-8f91-4bcdf80bfe9f) 1 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Healing From a survivor [Story #1809](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/name-co-founder-of-organization1809) [ Healing looks like a full ride scholarship to law school, representing victims, tearing down unconstitutional laws, getting Trey’s Law passed across the country in all 50 states, including repealing the civil and criminal SOL for CSA victims. ](/en/message/healing-looks-like-a-full-ride-scholarship-to-law-school-representing-victims-tearing-down-unconstitutional-laws-getting-treys-law-passed-across-the-country-in-all-50-states-including-repealing-the-ci-1849) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Community Message 🇺🇸 [ So very thankful you have set this up! What a great way to know for us to know we're not alone. That what happened matters. And our stories are important. We hear you survivor! ](/en/message/so-very-thankful-you-have-set-this-up-what-a-great-way-to-know-for-us-to-know-were-not-alone-that-what-happened-matters-and-our-stories-are-important-we-hear-you-survivor-1529) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Message of Hope From a survivor [Story #1809](https://community.treyslaw.org/story/name-co-founder-of-organization1809) [ No matter what the system tells you: it was done TO YOU, what they did is not YOUR FAULT. Now pick yourself up and do all YOU CAN DO to make sure it doesn’t happen to another kid, and when it does happen to another kid, they don’t have to fight the way we have had to in order for justice to be served in this life. ](/en/message/no-matter-what-the-system-tells-you-it-was-done-to-you-what-they-did-is-not-your-fault-now-pick-yourself-up-and-do-all-you-can-do-to-make-sure-it-doesnt-happen-to-another-kid-and-when-it-does-happen-t-1848) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report ##### Community Message 🇺🇸 [ Congratulations Elizabeth on all your Dedication and Commitment to passing Trey’s Law!! Officially in Effect in Texas today!! 🙌🎉💯 You are Honoring Trey with Legacy and Love! ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 ](/en/message/congratulations-name-on-all-your-dedication-and-commitment-to-passing-name-s-law-officially-in-effect-in-texas-today-you-are-honoring-name-with-legacy-and-love-1531) 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) - Report 0 Users 0 Views 0 Reactions 0 Stories read ##### Need to take a break? 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